The Best Way To Start As A Professional Cuddler
Today I'm going to talk about the best way to get started as a professional cuddler.
And I'll tell you upfront: the answer is probably not what you think it is.
I'd say 90% of emails I receive from aspiring cuddlers fall into one of two camps:
Someone is asking me how to be a professional cuddler
Someone is asking me to hire them as a professional cuddler
I'm usually answering these with no, I don't hire cuddlers (I did at one point and I no longer directly hire any cuddlers so please stop asking or sending me resumes), but I do teach a course called Snuggle School: All Access. If they need further help, I'm happy to see how I can help otherwise.
Not many people like those answer. So why do I say this to them?
Because they're looking for answers to questions that I can't answer for them. Even if I could, I can't answer it neatly in an email the way they want me to.
There are several ways you can get started. There are pluses and minuses to all of them. It depends on who you are, where you live, what your situation is, and what you want to get from doing this. One way to start might be perfect for you and be a really bad idea for someone else.
So, at the very least, I recommend doing your research on what options are out there. If you want to find a method that's right for you, consider asking yourself the following questions:
What skill sets or qualities do I have that I think will help me in this work? Think beyond being cuddly and how you look. Why would someone want to cuddle with you? Why do you think you'd be good at this?
What resources am I willing to use upfront and longterm? Any method you choose will take at least some money, time, and thought-- just some might require more or less of some resources. Money can take care of a lot of the heavy lifting for building your business for you, like learning, creating procedures, and finding clients. This saves time and thought. You need at least some time to see clients, respond to requests, and take action to grow your work when it's slow (and it will get slow at some point). Thought will help you decide whose safe to work with, what's the best way to run your practice, and how to put more of you in your practice. How you choose not to use your resources will determine how much you need to use your other resources.
How long do I want to do this? You might not know the answer to this and that's okay; my answer changed a few times while I did this (I originally just wanted to pay down my student loans faster while doing construction engineering. Now I live off of this work's income). If you want to dip your toes in it before deciding this is your new job (or second job), you might want to take some time to do some research and try out one site with no upfront investment and see how it goes (but know that one site is not representative of all experiences!). If you're committed to the idea and are ready to get started, I'd go with a method that gives you training or at least getting some other cuddle training (shameless plug).
Do I really want to do this or do I just want the money? Really dwell on this especially if the past three questions were hard to answer. If you're not sure you really want to do this but you want to try because the money looks good, I'd recommend not doing this and unsubscribing (the button is at the bottom of this email). Why? Because if the only driving force for doing this is you need the money and you can tolerate cuddling for money, that can breed danger. Your need for money might overrule your need for safety-- and that can get you in a dangerous situation with a client that you probably shouldn't have seen.
These are really important to answer before diving in. I wish I did this before I got into this work. I'm lucky and thankful that I turned out okay (spoiler: it took a lot of time and thought and money), but I know a lot of people that did what I did and didn't turn out okay…
So I’d rather you decide for yourself what works best for you, and really give it some thought.