What's Definitely NOT Okay in a Professional Cuddling Session (that real people actually asked me for)
In my last post, I talked briefly about what is okay in a cuddle session.
But what’s not okay?
I don’t explicitly name every little thing that I don’t do because if I did, the list would be super long and probably still not complete. Instead, I often refer to the Code of Ethics to figure out if what you want is something I can offer.
Even so, I’ve had some requests that are either not quite kosher for professional cuddling or just flat out explicit and wild.
(Clearly there are people that just don’t want to read the Code of Ethics when I send it to them. I don’t blame them for not wanting to sift through the jargon, but… if they don’t so much as look at a resource I give them for the answers to their questions, can I really trust them with my body in a cuddling session?)
Here’s a list of all the explicit things I’ve been asked to do over the past 7+ years that I can say with absolute certainty is 100% never okay no matter the circumstances in a session with me. Chances are I’ll probably be updating this list in the future because every so often I get surprised by a request that no one has ever asked before even now.
I also have yet to go a six-month period in my 7-year practice without getting a request like the ones below. Sigh. I believe it can happen someday.
JUST BECAUSE I DON’T LIST SOMETHING HERE DOES NOT MEAN IT’S OKAY. If you’re genuinely not sure after looking here and looking at the Code of Ethics, please ask! There is no harm in asking; just know that I might say no. Hopefully, this list gives you a really good idea of what I’m not all about.
Fair warning: some of the requests I name are somewhat common to get. Some of them might really be out there and throw you off when you read them. Read the list at your own risk.
What I’ve been asked by actual people looking for a session with me that I will not do:
Kissing lips and making out
Kissing *other* lips— aka giving oral sx to me
Giving head
69
69 with clothes on
Cuddling with no top on
Cuddling in undergarments
Cuddling in boxer shorts
Cuddling without underwear on underneath shorts
Cuddling without a bra with a tanktop on
Cuddling with no clothes on
Groping me under my clothes
Groping me over my clothes
Wearing a condom under all their clothes while they cuddle with me
Dressing the client in MY underwear, tying them to a bed, and kicking them in the crotch repeatedly
Spanking me
Wearing a dress with nothing on underneath it
Wearing a dress with nylons on
Really anything about wearing a dress or skirt without opaque leggings on underneath it
Wearing nylons for your bottoms instead of shorts or pants
Licking and sucking on my fingers
Licking or sucking on my toes
Sniffing my feet
Stroking a client’s member with my hands or feet
Slapping the client’s face
Putting panties and diapers on someone
Grinding into my butt and/or humping me while spooning
Lifting you up by the chest with my feet “like an airplane”
Turning slowly for the client so they can admire my backside
Humiliating or verbally degrading the client
Giving full service— aka, having intercourse
Pretty much anything a client says after “I don’t want to have sex, but…”
If you feel surprised or bad for me while reading this, you should! This is appalling that anyone would be subjected to these kinds of requests when they very clearly are not all about that life. It’s scary to know I’m not alone in some of these requests as a young woman in this work, and cuddlers of other genders and ages are also subjected to some of these requests and more.
Sometimes if I say no to these requests, a potential client may suggest that they’ll pay me more if I do offer it. Do you really think that you can pay me more money to do something I’m already uncomfortable with doing? This is essentially asking me to forget about my own body autonomy. How insulting and disrespectful of you.
(Nevermind that this is incredibly incriminating to even ask me this— actual escorts in the United States will not see you if you explicitly ask for any of the things above when reaching out to them!)
Now listen, I have immense respect for the people that advertise that they do adult work. Mixing adult work and professional cuddling is not in line with my ethics. When we do mix those two, dangerous things can happen— like potentially priming clients that get both from a self-proclaimed professional cuddler to expect that kind of service from every professional cuddler they see.
Unfortunately requests like this probably won’t be going away anytime soon for the entire field of professional cuddling. But hopefully by reading this, you have a better idea of what I will and will not offer.
I say this often, but I mean it every time I do: If you don’t go with me and what I offer, I really do hope you find who or what you’re looking for.
And if you think that might be me, let’s talk.