For Clients: What to Do if You Get Sexually Excited During a Session

I can't tell you the number of times I've been asked by potential clients what happens if they get sexually excited by accident in a session.  It's the question I get asked the most, and it's the #1 reason many people that would have a snuggling session won't book one. It's sad because something that they believe is going to be an issue and too embarrassing during a session is a non-issue for the properly trained professional snuggler.

As far as I am aware, this does not happen with every client I work with, but it does happen.  Here's what you can do to still enjoy your session if it does:

1. Be aware that it could happen even in the most platonic and non-sexual sessions. We're aware that this isn't always something that happens because of something we did or thought. Bodies are weird and do strange things. Snugglers are here to keep us present and focused on the platonic, therapeutic moment cuddling provides.  There is no need to feel guilty or awkward about this happening. It just is. Accept that it happens when it does.

2. Adjust yourself as needed, but please don't draw attention to it. One way to do this is to move away slightly from us while big spoon and adjust yourself  as needed without telling your snuggler. Your snuggler may not always be aware of what's going on for your end as far as this goes, even if you think it's obvious. Like many massage therapists, we're trained to not acknowledge this to make this situation less awkward, so we simply do not bring it up whether we are aware of it in the session or not.

3. Ask to move to a more comfortable position that makes you less self-conscious about it. Our job is your comfort, and this is a case that we can help you with with some guidance from you. We still ask that you try not to tell us about it, but we do ask that you let us know what we can do to make you more comfortable in the session (and this goes for at all times!). Need to move to a different position? Need to use the bathroom? Need to end a session early? Whatever will help with your comfort in this situation, tell us so we can see if we can help you. We just want you to have a good and relaxing experience.

So ultimately, it comes down to: each client and snuggler is responsible for their own body. Snugglers don't want you to feel awkward about this happening, and we want you to be able to enjoy a session whether this happens or not.